Tips to deal with teenage behaviour problems

Published: 09th June 2010
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Teenage behaviour problems are one of the major challenges for most parents. There are many causes for teenage behaviour problems - hormonal and physical changes, stress at school, family stress and peer group pressure are some of the key causes of teenager problems. Key symptoms include: disruptive behaviour, decline in performance at school, withdrawal from relationships, argumentative and bickering nature and lack of social skills. When parents face behavioural challenges from their teenagers, they need to take it seriously and try to deal with them, else it can culminate into serious issues. Below are some of tips to deal with teenage behavioural challenges:

Do not blame yourself: The best approach to teenage behaviour problems is to take you out of the equation. The reaction of most parents when they face these issues is extreme and some parents also dramatise the situation by holding themselves responsible for all the problems their children encounter. This could make your teenager withdraw further into their shell, and instead of seeking your help, they go further away from you.

Teenage problems do not go away by either self-criticism or shifting responsibility to someone else. It is therefore important to look at how you can solve the problem rather than dwelling on why the problem happened in the first place and who can be blamed for it.

Appreciate positive behaviour: Next reinforce positive behaviour to improve your relationship with your child. Constant positive reinforcement, with focus and emphasis given to good behaviour from the early teens will help your teenager to focus on the right behaviour from the start, and to take responsibility for bad behaviour. The best way to deal with teenage behaviour problems is to create an environment of constantly rewarding and recognising good behaviour at home from early childhood.

Ignore small mishaps: Finally to keep things under control and to avoid excessive arguments it is best to ignore irritating about non-harmful behaviour. Most of these non-serious acts might be childishness and most teenagers realise and get over such behavioural traits as they progress through their life and mature. By ignoring such behaviours you make it clear to your teenager that the day you do take actions seriously they owe you an explanation. Selective ignoring is one of the most effective ways to deal with teenage behaviour problems.

Teenage behaviour problems can culminate into serious issues like drug abuse or eating disorders or experimentation with unsafe sex if not curbed at the right time. Parents have to take every form of misbehaviour seriously and ensure that they are firm about their non-acceptance of certain behaviours. Regular and open communication about key rules to be followed at home is crucial to ensure compliance. In the book "Solving Teenage Problems" an effective model to have difficult discussion with your teenager has been described along with a working exercise to help you have this discussion. Having some form of a structure for such difficult discussions is always important and "Communication Enhancement Model" described in the book ensures that you can have this discussion and get the right results.

About the author:
The author is a successful marketing executive and a mother of two boys. She has had a rough ride in the past two years and has successfully saved her family from the brink of disaster by working on her parenting techniques. You can access her free report "New Parenting Style" or buy her book "Solving Teenage Problems" on or check your "Parent Stress Intensity Quotient" for free on

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